“Your environment, both your social and natural surroundings, can greatly impact how you feel.” says Marjie L. Roddick, MA, NCC, LMHC. Having a positive relationship with other people requires a lot of work. It doesn’t just happen overnight, and you must understand that the exertion of effort is needed to make a significant connection. It requires a certain amount of skills that correspond with your behavior towards others. So here is the list of things you can work on to be able to improve your relationship with those people around you.
Are you feeling lonely? Do you find yourself in a heartbreaking situation? Does every single thing in your life feel suffocating? Do not feel sorry if you find yourself in a place where things are falling apart. Having this kind of emotion is only typical, especially if you are welcoming new changes in life. Stop worrying too much about the daily struggles and focus on making yourself feel better. Sometimes, all you need is a conversation with any of these people:
Staying focused on your day-to-day life is essential so that you will know the direction that you are going to. You cannot just go on without thinking of how every single step will affect the outcome of your future. For this reason, it is necessary that you must never lose focus. However, there are times when you would just end up feeling exhausted with everything. These are the moments when you may think that the world has turned its back on you. You lose focus, and the other aspects of your life start to crumble down.
There’s always a time in your life when you’ll feel the need for inner healing. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you don’t have to worry about the things that are happening in your life right now, but self-healing will give you the benefit to overcome instances that you might think you couldn’t handle. There are tons of stresses and problems that might come your way, but if you focus on looking at things from a different perspective, your life would be much more comfortable.
So, have you either proposed or thought of proposing to your girlfriend who bravely faces lupus as we speak?
The fact that you are paying attention to this post must mean that the wedding bells are about to ring for you and your beloved. It is a wondrous thing – love is – and you are lucky to find each other.
There are plenty of things that parents can get stressed about. It could be the way the kitchen is so messed up just after the children finish breakfast and head to school. Or it could be that she doesn’t have time for herself that she gets drained and frustrated. Or worse, they may have a child who has mental health or behavioral problems. So they seek help in dealing with these issues, and in the process, they forget about their own emotions. The stress may gradually or quickly increase and overwhelm the parents. Counseling can walk parents through addressing their mental and emotional issues. Here they are provided with support and taught vital skills to help them manage their issues. Continue reading Therapy For Stressed Parents
If you’re one of those individuals that are worried about their careers and unsure about their future, then you may be a great candidate for career counseling. Career counseling helps individuals like you to face the challenges of the uncertain future by offering sound advice about what you want, what qualities you have best, and what will make you happy. It helps you make sense of your present so you can plan for your future. Continue reading What Career Counseling Can Do For You
Procrastination, or the act of delaying something that must be done, can become a seriously distressing illness that can cause frustration and dissatisfaction in someone’s life, which may lead to more harmful effects on the quality of one’s relationships. From the Latin word meaning ‘until tomorrow,’ this presents as an evasion of work that must be accomplished or the act of delaying tactics. People become procrastinators because some have not been trained or have not trained themselves at doing and completing easy as well as difficult tasks at hand. Continue reading Getting Help For Procrastination
Today’s technology has enabled us to move further into the future. But however this has turned out as a blessing to the world, it has also become a curse – for me as a parent, that is. Even though smartphones have made it easier for my husband and me to communicate via Skype or Face Time, my child has slowly been pulled away from me because of this blessing. Gadgets have changed our lifestyle and have influenced us, including our children, and sometimes for the worse.
How Have These Gadgets Negatively Affected Children?
Family time has been tremendously reduced, that’s for sure (at least for me). I can’t even share 15 minutes of dinnertime with my 8-year-old without us having an argument because she’s watching something on YouTube while eating! It’s so distressing!
Furthermore, based on research, here are some of the most detrimental effects that gadgets can cause on children.
- Gadgets increase the likelihood of children becoming obese, as they don’t find playing outside more enjoyable than playing video games or watching vlogs. They have a higher risk of becoming lazy and useless.
- Because most things that watch contain some form of violence in the form of shouting, fighting, or throwing tantrums, children are likely to follow these and may manifest with violent behavior as well.
- There is less energy and focus on school matters.
- Too much screen time from television and phones have been found to cause lesser social interaction and may lead to reduced language development. It also causes reduced sleeping hours, as the blue light emitted by the screens somehow prevent the production of melanin, a vital hormone for sleeping.
So What Can I Do As A Parent?
“Balancing technology use with other aspects of daily life seems reasonable, but there is a lot of conflicting advice about where that balance should be.” Christopher J. Ferguson Ph.D. in clinical psychology explains. So with that, here’s a collection of answers from parents who, like me, have struggled with their children and have successfully weaned them from their gadgets.
Do Your Job. No matter how rebellious or hostile your son or daughter becomes, you must fulfill your responsibility as a parent. Set rules and show your child that you want these rules to be followed, or else there will be consequences. If the rules aren’t followed, then implement the consequences. You must make hard decisions, as you know that they will be for the best. But whatever you do, make sure you provide an explanation for your child to better understand and take to heart what you are trying to teach him.
Do Other Activities With Him. Encourage your child to read by introducing him to popular books or those that you know will perk his interest. If he likes magic, buy him the Harry Potter Series. Play board games with him or do a sport together. Let him realize that there’s more to life than just sitting at home with a gadget.
Don’t Buy Him A Gadget Unless He Needs It. If you want him to be able to call you from school, you can buy an ordinary phone that can only do call and text. If he’s not yet in the appropriate age to learn via visual aids, then don’t buy him gadgets yet. Actually, don’t buy him a gadget just because the other kids have one. Buy one if it is only necessary. Note that “It has been found that prolonged and unmonitored technology usage can impact children on the cognitive, psychosocial, and psychological levels.” Jyothsna Bhat, PsyD said. Therefore, might as well consider it.
“There is also little doubt that all of the new technologies, led by the Internet, are shaping the way we think in ways obvious and subtle, deliberate and unintentional, and advantageous and detrimental.” Jim Taylor Ph.D. said. I know these tips are better said than done, but they’ve been tested and proven to work so I’ll definitely give them a try. It’s worth doing, and it’s worth the fight.
What is the first idea or thing that comes into your mind when you think of death? If you will die today, can you honestly say to yourself that you have done everything you need to do? Will you be ready to part this world in case it is going to be your last day? These are the questions that you need to ponder on every single day so that you will feel a lot motivated and inspired to go after for what you want.
According to a therapist, many people end up feeling unhappy because they do a lot of things not for themselves but other people. While there are those who reap the rewards of selfishness, one cannot deny the fact that it is essential to take care of one’s self first before reaching out to help others.
In today’s article, we are going to discuss the different tips and tricks that you need to consider if you truly want to live your life to the fullest. Do not wait before it is too late to start going after what you want. Remind yourself that this life is too short to worry about a lot of things. You must stop thinking that you still got time to do everything you want for the next few years. Again, you need to reflect on the possibility that today might be your last day to make things right. Below is a complete list of the strategies that you may consider if you want to have the best time of your life:
Stop Dwelling On The Past
The first or initial step that you must take is to forgive yourself so that you can finally stop dwelling on the past. You have to give yourself a break from all the stress and anxiety that your past has provided you. If you think that you did something wrong in the past or has made wrong choices before, then promise yourself to get over it and begin a new chapter of your life. Remember that all the matters is the present moment. You have to look at life with a positive and hopeful vision. Focus on living in the present and working hard to have a beautiful future. Yes, “Major life transitions can bring up a lot past memories, increase anxiety, disorder eating and body image, and even though it’s “the happiest time of your life”, depression and other mental health symptoms are known to flare up.” Brie Shelly, MS, LMHC, RYT said.
Set Goals And Objectives
Be sure that you know the direction of your life. Do not choose to go with the flow. Instead, be strong enough to see what you want and to go after it no matter how difficult it may seem. Take note that you are a great and fantastic person who can change the world around you. All you must do is to set goals and remind yourself every single day of your mission. Once you do this, everything in your life will become a lot easier. In everything that you do, be sure that you always consider your objectives. Take responsibility for all your actions. Most importantly, reward yourself whenever you achieve one goal at a time.
Take Risks At All Times
Another thing that you must consider is never to be afraid of taking risks. Remember that life is too short to keep staying on the safe side. Sometimes, you have to choose to close your eyes and take the plunge even if you have no idea how it will end. For example, if you are already unhappy with your work, do not be afraid to quit. File your resignation letter today and start chasing your dreams. You must stop thinking that you will never get another job or that you will be in trouble in case you do it. The truth is that you will never get a chance to find out what will happen until you finally decide to quit. You can make things happen. “People with a healthy self-esteem tend to view failure as an event. People with low self-esteem often view failure as fatal. This thought process pummels one’s self-esteem and overtime being a failure becomes their identity.” says counselor Monte Drenner
Follow Your Passion
Know what makes you happy and cultivate yourself in that area. Remember that it is essential to be in love with everything that you do. As such, you must see to it that you will continue to follow your passion regardless of how challenging things may be. Keep in mind that everything is possible in this lifetime. You will be amazed at how your life can improve the moment you keep on doing the things or activities that you are genuinely passionate about. Look for those that set your soul on fire or burn your desire for happiness in this life. You deserve nothing but the best. Remember, “Happy people do things differently. They make their emotional wellbeing a priority and practice daily and weekly habits that help them create joy, happiness and satisfaction in their lives.” Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC said.
What are you waiting for? Be sure to follow the list of tips that we mentioned in this post so that you can have a quality life.