Having fights and arguments is only normal in every marriage. No matter how suitable a couple is for each other, there will come a time when they would have arguments over big or petty things. The good thing is that a marital conflict does not jeopardize the marriage, as long as the husband and wife know how to handle their issues or problems. Whenever you disagree with your partner, be sure to resolve it right away. Keep in mind that the more you prolong the fight, the more dangerous it is for the relationship.
Here are the things that you must do to resolve marital conflict:
Stop Being Selfish
Always remember that you are not perfect, so as your husband. Do not expect to win every argument. Stop thinking that you are always right because the truth is that you sometimes commit mistakes or errors. Be mature enough to take the high road. Do not be selfish because marriage is not all about who wins in a fight. It is about two people who are willing to forgive and understand each other because they belong together. “We can’t change the toxic people into non-toxic people, but we can work on being less reactive.” Marie Manly, PhD said.
Let It Go
Learn how to let things go. Give your husband some slack. Stop nagging whenever he does something that you do not like. If he already says sorry for upsetting you, then give him a chance to make things right. You need to master how to release all your frustration and anger properly. Instead of nagging, try to talk to your partner about the marital conflict. It is time that both of you decide to consider fixing the problem instead of making a big issue out of it. Heather Edwards LMHC, NCC, BCC says, “It can be difficult to re-establish a healthy routine and empower yourself after a toxic relationship. Fortunately, coming to the realization that you need to let go is one of the most difficult steps.”
Pursue Your Spouse
Another important thing that you need to learn is to let go of your pride. As already mentioned above, it does not matter who is wrong or right. What you need to do is to accept the fact that your husband needs your love and attention more than anything in this world. Regardless of who is at fault, make an effort to pursue him. Once he sees that you are trying to pursue him despite the marital conflict, he will come to his senses. In the long run, he will become more loving and affectionate.
Talk To A Therapist
There are some problems in a marriage that are difficult to resolve without the assistance of a professional. Assess the relationship that you have with the other person. If you believe that things have gone worst, then maybe it is time to consider calling a relationship counselor or therapist. Let this professional help you address the issues in the marriage. With this kind of set up, it will be easier for both of you to point out the conflicts that need immediate attention or resolution. “If you have had significant issues around trust, safety, or stability in relationships previously, I think it’s important for people to have other sources of support outside of their partner(s). This support can come in various forms such as friends, family members, clergy, and even a therapist.” Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC emphasizes.
Keeping a marriage healthy is not an easy thing to do. It requires dedication to stay happy with your husband. Just remember that you have a choice every single day. Make sure that the decision is always to care for and love your partner.