When the universe conspires with all our hopes, dreams and goals, it is easy to feel on top of the world. When everything we planned comes to fruition, it can inflate our ego and self-esteem. When society floods us with appreciation, praises, and compliments, it often leads to a feeling of superiority and a sense of indestructibility. While confidence is highly prized upon, it should be accompanied by accurate assessment and an ample amount of humility. It is wise to acknowledge the fact that you are, after all, human, made with flaws and imperfections.
Various researchers show that overconfidence can be the thing that is stopping you from achieving your personal best. The best way to combat overconfidence is self-awareness. This is best exhibited using these tips:
We are often taught to strive for big dreams and aim high, but it is also best to accept failures and rejection as well. There is nothing wrong with working hard and hoping for the best outcome, but at the same time, it is wise to also prepare for the worst-case scenario. The best mindset in life is still the cliché – enjoy the journey rather than the destination – because it is painful to learn in the end that the most coveted possession, lifestyle, and desires are not what you expected. You don’t want to waste your life away chasing a mirage or an illusion of success. “Putting things in perspective and treating yourself with love and compassion can be such a gift.” Karla Helbert, LPC, E-RYT, C-IAYT stresses.
Tempting as it is, don’t compare yourself with others.
Overconfidence is a form of compensation and depreciation of the skills and talents of others through highlighting and boosting your achievements, skills, and abilities without regard to the feelings and sentiments of others. Do not be overly concerned about the dreams and accomplishments of others because each person has his success gauge. The definition of success is different for each one of us. Thus, it is incorrect to measure your dreams based on that of others. Comparison, in fact, might be your downfall. Marc Romano, PsyD always says “Focus on yourself and your own happiness and do not compare yourself to others.” If you find yourself slowly comparing yourself with others, maybe it is a good sign that you somehow need to take a hiatus from the world of social media. Perhaps, you will realize that limiting your social media lounge time can be used on productive pursuits.
Don’t push the limits too far.
Maybe you have an adventurous streak since you believe you have a Midas touch and with superhuman strengths. Don’t take on the state of thinking that it can happen to anybody else but you. Test yourself cautiously and don’t mistake beginner’s luck as a form of expertise or good luck charm. For instance, while trying your first bitcoin trading, you receive a return on investment of over 300% in a span of a few days. Believing that you know cryptocurrency and able to predict market movement, you decided to invest your life savings in such investment. Significant returns are possible, but market volatility for cryptocurrency and the unknown personalities behind the processes gives the bitcoin investment to be highly risky and often described as a gamble. “Self-compassion is being gentle with yourself, not beating yourself up over your past decisions, and accepting that you are human and make mistakes.” therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW used to say.
Being overconfident allows oneself to take assertive strides toward accomplishing a goal or project. Nonetheless, one should also be mindful of practicing intellectual humility and overall satisfaction so as not to overstep and haul power that can destroy you later.