Success is something that every one of us wants to achieve; however, the important part of success is maintaining its level or increasing it further, improving one’s life and those around you. If the result of your success leads to a ballooned ego and self-serving tendencies, then it is best to examine your priorities and reflect on your actions.
“The most helpful definition of being positive is having hope and confidence in one’s ability to handle what’s tough, along with remembering that nothing is all negative all the time,” explains Jo Eckler, PsyD, a therapist in Austin, Texas. However, practice humility and be self-critical on the level of confidence and one’s driven ego. Countless business success stories are embodying self-centered and cockiness as the main ingredients to achieving fame and fortune; however, according to experts, one’s arrogance can be one of the biggest hindrances to success.
Experts recommend some few hacks on how to control and keep your ego in check.
- Don’t react impulsively
It is so easy to react in situations that push our buttons, and that is the normal response of any individual; however, to attain the best possible version of yourself, filter your speech and take a few moments to analyze the situation and don’t let your temper or ego get ahead of yourself. Always decide on a calm and strategic mindset than a frantic or defensive position. Better yet, count to a hundred before opening your mouth for a response.
- Don’t contradict your humility
Don’t go around preaching your humble beginnings and how humility is one of the most important recipes for success when you quickly negate your humility with ego tripping. Casually name-dropping influential people, you know and related to, going on about your wealth or showing pictures of your flashy cars and fabulous homes can be offensive. Not everyone thinks the same way. For some, this can serve as inspiration, but others may take this showing-off, and you will be labeled to be such a snob.
- Don’t label
Don’t stereotype others as purely hardcore businessmen or spiritual and deep thinkers. There are no rules and don’t box people because you will never know what they are capable of and also, their abilities. Always be perceptive and act accordingly. “Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good. It is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth.” Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. explains.
- Practice gratitude
Be grateful even for small things and little successes. To achieve something, you need to start somewhere. For many of us, it starts at the bottom. It is fine to share your accomplishments with others but always come from the state of gratitude rather than an ego trip in disguise.
- Embrace and experience other cultures
Visiting other places and learning about their cultures gives different views on various subjects of life. It is best to emulate their wonderful and effective practices and behaviors in your own life or maybe, in your own business or company. For instance, in Japan, the more successful you become, you are expected to be humbler.
- Stop complaining
Yes, it is easier to complain about the negative things and on how life had handed you bad breaks, limited opportunities, etc. The next time you find yourself complaining about everything, turn it into a positive statement and find solutions and possible alternatives to counteract the negative. “No one likes to fail, but some people take it harder than others,” says counselor Monte Drenner.
- Don’t treat famous people differently
Treat everyone with respect because that’s what is right. Treating people based on their status is no different than treating someone as inferior because they are ordinary people. Famous personalities are just human after all despite their achievements, accomplishments, and money.
Success can come and go. What is important is your core values and the impact you shared with others and your community.